Sunday, October 31, 2010

Sexuality......What is it?

When the majority of people existing in our “modern-day” society hear the term sexuality, images of the “physical” hallmarks of this epithet instantaneously enter into their minds. Mechanisms of mainstream civilization [I use civilization very loosely], reinforce this rush of hyper-carnal imagery through the use of overly glamorized visual stimuli, such as those found in films, product advertisements, and music videos. People’s auditory reception of sexuality is also incessantly assaulted by music [all types, not just society’s “standard” scapegoat Hip Hop/Rap] with lyrics exalting casual encounters and sub-human sexual activity. Also, racy books, such as those written by authors like Zane, E. Lynn Harris, and Eric Jerome Dickey to name a few, permeate the minds of its readers with a myriad of overly dramatized sexual verbiage designed…..yes designed, to ignite images of salacious wantonness.
Religion, another participant, or rather offender in the mis-education of the masses regarding sexuality, often distributes messages of “sex for procreation” and if used for anything else, eternal damnation ensues. Dogmatic and might I add, militarized messages of confined and spiritually sanctioned sexual practices only further mis-educate and instill fear and anxiety in many followers of the respective religion spreading these “gospels.”
Observing the state of our society relative to this issue, you have to stop and really ask yourself, “what is sexuality?” In my innumerable conversations with friends, co-workers, classmates, etc., over the last few years, it is glaringly apparent to me that those that are active participants in the world of sexuality DON’T ACTUALLY KNOW WHAT IT TRULY IS!........ WHY IS THIS?! As someone who…let’s just say has yet to even become a novice in this realm, it’s only natural that I would ask this question. Here is what I have observed:
Unfortunately, we have the grave misfortune of living in a highly pornified culture, where virtually EVERYTHING, from fashion to food and even cars are turned into objects for sexual gratification. People, mostly women, but also men, are invented into these soulless objects purely intended for carnal release. Moreover, we exist in a society that has somehow found a way to compartmentalize innate aspects of the human experience. How is it possible to separate the physical from the emotional; the physical and emotional from the mental; and above all, the physical, emotional, and the mental from the spiritual…the very core of who we are? This Cartesian duality, inherently separatist and Western in nature, fails to highlight the essential interconnectedness off all of these parts which make us human! Think about it, if we were simply supposed to have physical encounters with someone (i.e. simply have sex that’s just physical) we would only be a body… a shell devoid of emotions and the ability to connect with another person on an intellectual and spiritual level. So knowing that we [meaning human beings] are SO much more than physical matter, why is there this pervasive and quite insidious culture of a nonchalant and almost flippant attitude towards sexuality? The answer to this loaded question dear reader, is simple: people are taught….NO, rather conditioned to view sexuality as an act; a mere encounter with another person, [while exciting at the time,] that authorizes you to exist in a universe of hedonistic and self-involved behavior, free from the realities of a true union with another spirit in human form. I suppose this is why some people find it SO easy and are comfortable with sharing their bodies completely with someone during the initial stages of the encounter, however when it comes to actually getting to know someone and truly engaging with them, an overwhelming number of people turn out to be utterly inept!
Sexuality is a definite natural aspect of being human….YES, this is true and I embrace that! However, what I WILL NOT embrace is the collective media’s persistent use of misinformation and excessive sexualized propaganda towards its consumers to induce revenue sales, which simply feeds the economic beast known as capitalism. This downright bastardization and mocking of sexuality is dangerous to our world and its inhabitants; people take part in this aspect of the human experience without being properly educated and informed of its structure which leads to many of the social ills that plague us (i.e. high divorce rates, infidelity, unplanned pregnancies,….you get the picture!) I will also NOT tolerate nor embrace some religion's attempt to indoctrinate feelings of apprehension, guilt and terror into people to reject who they innately are.
Many researchers of the conceptualizations of sexuality stress the aspect of connecting with someone BEYOND the physical. Sexuality in its true form, is spiritual in nature and it is a type of praise and admiration towards another person, as well as an expression of unity to that soul in the highest form. Our very core is innately spiritual/soulful and any interaction with another person, whether a conversation, a look, a smile, a slight touch, a hug, even a happy thought about the person connects the two. Therefore, when engaging in deeper and more widely recognized sexual moments with someone, you exchange pieces of your spirit with each other, a transference of energy which lasts….....until!
I suppose that if I leave you with one central message from this unforeseen thesis, it would be to find YOURSELF through intentional education about sexuality. Through self-education you emancipate yourself from the constant mind-control of what sexuality ISN’T and you become the free and loving being that God, nature, and the universe intended!


  1. this is very insightful lady J. Thank you for a well thought out note. I always enjoy reading your posts.

  2. EXCELLENT LADY J!!! Very observant & insightful. Thank you for bringing these observations to the forefront. You've provided a wealth of information and I'm sure many can benefit from your insights. Keep up the good work!